Mourning Someone Who Has Died

[killersmom]

((((Sara))))
I am thinking of you.
I know what you mean about thinking of them during their better times.
It is wonderful to know they are all together again.

[killersmom]

((((Marz))))
I think it is wonderful you are going to support the family.
Sending strength your way!

[killersmom]

You are right about remembering dates. I don't for my father and grandparents.
I guess with Rick, his birthday (12/1) and the date he died (12/15) and Christmas are all close together and so the dates stick. This may change as the years pass. Not sure. But as you all say, they are always with us and some small thing occurs that reminds us of them all the time, not just on anniversary dates.

I see my sons and see Rick, I get their humor and it is Rick's.......so lots of good reminding!

[atruant]

You are right about remembering dates. I don't for my father and grandparents.
I guess with Rick, his birthday (12/1) and the date he died (12/15) and Christmas are all close together and so the dates stick. This may change as the years pass. Not sure. But as you all say, they are always with us and some small thing occurs that reminds us of them all the time, not just on anniversary dates.

I see my sons and see Rick, I get their humor and it is Rick's.......so lots of good reminding!

Where's the 'Like' button! Or make that a 'Love it' button!
 

[dejavu]

I remember the day of my fathers death, and the month of my mothers, but I don't remember the years at all. On the other hand I remember their birthdays, and think of them often, my father particularly is part of everything I do. He is always with me.

I'll never forget the date of my father's death.  We all said it was a palindrome, because it read the same forwards as backwards:  8/9/98.  And I remember that my brother, whose birthday is on 8/13, didn't want the funeral on 8/13 because it would remind him of my dad's death every year when it was his own birthday.

(((Linda))) I know how much you miss Rick on that 12/15 date every year.  My mom still thinks about the 8/9 date, although it's been 12 years so I don't think of it as much.

[dejavu]

Hugs to all of you who have lost loved ones recently.

[Marz]

((((Marz))))
I think it is wonderful you are going to support the family.
Sending strength your way!

Thank you Auntie

[Marz]

((((((((Linda)))))))))

[janjo]

My youngest daughter's husband just lost his grandfather last night. He was 94. but son in law is terribly upset.

[fofol]

"When both parents are gone, it sort of moves you to the head of the line, so to speak."

My Dad died on 9-6-03 (our Zephaniah, a much-loved Westie died exactly five years later, 9-6-08) five years after Mom who died on11-27-98.  Shortly after Dad died, we had a cousin who is about five years older than my older brother had a stoke and wound up in a nursing facility, and two days after that, another cousin - from another family - died with an MI.  I got a call from my older brother who had been, up until this point, the strong silent one, the guy with the cool head who never lost either.  He called me with a tone in his voice that shook me - he was unsure and a little panicky.  I asked him what was the matter and his reply was,  "Well I guess we're next, we're the ones a the edge of the cliff right now.'  I told him that while that might be true, we were the lucky ones - they were taking the bad ones first!  It was e sufficient to bring him back down to real life.

[janjo]

Because I was only in my thirties / early forties when my parents died it wasn't so much that I felt as if I was the next to fall from the tree, so much as that the responsibility for the family fell into my lap as their eldest child. It was alternately scary and freeing, because I was the back stop, if I made a decision it was mine, there was no one to tell me I had done things wrong. It certainly was a growing up experience.
The only thing is, it does worry me being the age now that they were when they died, even though neither of them had a condition that is likely to affect me genetically.
My sister, who is two years younger than me, feels the same.

[Ennis Del Mark]

Hugs to all of you who have lost loved ones recently.

Hugs from me, too.  I have been thinking about my departed loved ones during this season.  So many.

[killersmom]

I just got some very very sad news via e-mail.

Sr. Thecla Goertz, OSB, went to meet her Creator on Friday, December 23, 2011.

Sr. Thecla was my principal for my 8 years in grade school. She was also a wonderful mentor to me while I was in the convent.
Sisters Lucille and Mary Rose Goertz are her cousins and members of the community. They have two brothers who are priests, her cousins as well. My heart and sympathy go out to my community and to all the Goertz family. She will be sorely missed. She had not been ill and this was quite sudden. What a blow.

Requiescat in pace.
Möge sie in Frieden ruhen

[fritzkep]

Amen, Linda.

And to all who have lost loved ones.

[MaineGirl]

An old neighborhood friend of my brother's just died suddenly yesterday from a heart attack. He'd come to our house many times, even had a crush on me ,and I even remember a scene between him and my brother to stay away from my little sister   ....he was a nice guy and always kept a smile on his face..he was only 49

To Richie and his family....my thoughts and prayers are with you...I'm so sorry Richie,your life was cut so short...and no matter what my brother said so many years ago, I always had a crush on you.

Rest in Peace my friend

Nellie

(((((Nellie)))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.