Mourning Someone Who Has Died

[tfferg]

My condolences, Marcia. I hope you have people to talk and share your memories with your mother with at this time and in the future.

[tfferg]

I'm finding I've forgotten the exact dates of my parents' deaths, I just remember the months and the years, but I do remember their birthdays. I think of Mum and Dad very, very often as I think about my own life and their lives and when I read novels that focus on family relationships as I have been doing recently, though I haven't chosen them specifically because of that theme. So, Linda and Tony, I sahre your feelings.

[Marz]

((((((Hugs to everyone)))))

[Marz]

I am going to a funeral on wedneday and Ivre only ever been to 2 funerals in my life, (my great uncle when I was 9 and my beloved Nanny Noo, whos went by in a blur of tears and heartbreak so  i dont remember much about it) anyway this is for a lady that I always thought of as my other Nan as she was a mad irish lady too, she was my cousins best friends mum and I saw her alot and have known her since i was a baby. she passed away last friday at the age of 71 after fighting cancer bravely for over 10 years, she will be greatly missed but I am just greaful she is not in pain anymore cos the last few years she really suffered I am going to support the family who are the loveliest people you will ever meet,it will be very sad, and I am going to try to support them as much as I can, I will also get to meet the irish part of her family that still live in ireland that she told me so much about, I just hope I can get through it without being a complete mess

[Cally]

My aunt, my father's sister, died yesterday, aged 99.  I don't feel a great sorrow because she had deteriorated very much in the last couple of years and did not have much of a life (she was fantastic still in her early 90s), but there is sadness in that she was the last of my parents' siblings. We were all so fond of her - a lively, strong-minded lady who was full of fun. My father's brother died in the 2nd WW, his other sister earlier this year, aged 96, and he himself died in 1967, so their lifespans have been so very different.  I like to think of them all together again.

[Cally]

(((Marz)))  I hope you will get through the funeral all right - it will be good to be with the family. 

[Cally]

I'm finding I've forgotten the exact dates of my parents' deaths, I just remember the months and the years, but I do remember their birthdays. I think of Mum and Dad very, very often as I think about my own life and their lives and when I read novels that focus on family relationships as I have been doing recently, though I haven't chosen them specifically because of that theme. So, Linda and Tony, I sahre your feelings.

Tony, I feel the same as you, I think. I try not to remember the dates of my parents' deaths, though I think of them very often. I just think that I would want my children not to focus on that with me either. But I know of course that everyone needs to grieve in their own way.

My father died after a year of illness, and my mother after 6 weeks of slow dying after a stroke (and following 3 years of increasing dementia).  It was very difficult for me for a long time to remember them as they used to be, but now I find it much easier.

[janjo]

I'm finding I've forgotten the exact dates of my parents' deaths, I just remember the months and the years, but I do remember their birthdays. I think of Mum and Dad very, very often as I think about my own life and their lives and when I read novels that focus on family relationships as I have been doing recently, though I haven't chosen them specifically because of that theme. So, Linda and Tony, I sahre your feelings.

I remember the day of my fathers death, and the month of my mothers, but I don't remember the years at all. On the other hand I remember their birthdays, and think of them often, my father particularly is part of everything I do. He is always with me.

[Sason]

I'm sorry about your aunt, (((Sara))).

Even if there's not a great deal of sorrow, I can imagine it being sad that the last person of that generation is gone.

[Cally]

Thanks, Sonja - she was a great character with a lovely sense of humour.

[Miaisland]

My mom passed on last Sunday evening (Dec 11th), at the age of 92.  She'd been in an assisted living place for about a year, and hospice care for several months.  She had been living in Atlanta, but the memorial service will be in Venice Florida, since my dad is buried there and she always wanted to be buried next to him.

I'm still trying to sort out my feelings about it.  When both parents are gone, it sort of moves you to the head of the line, so to speak.  The last time I saw her was in August 2009, when we made a week-long trip to Atlanta. Was so very glad we did that, as she was still up and around then and we got to spend some quality time together.

I am so very sorry about your loss. My thoughts are with you.

[Miaisland]

Rick, my husband of almost 33 years passed away 7 years ago today, just about this time.
The dates of his birthday and our marriage and this date, always sneak up on me, but they always come to the forefront of my consciousness
Not something that bothers me so much. It does however bring the feelings to the forefront and affects many things.
I still miss him. These are the days I ask all the 'what ifs'.
I know he's out there somewhere and he is still with me on and off.
I still love you Rick and when I remember so many things, you still make me laugh. One of your many gifts to me.

((((Linda))))

 

[Miaisland]

I am going to a funeral on wedneday and Ivre only ever been to 2 funerals in my life, (my great uncle when I was 9 and my beloved Nanny Noo, whos went by in a blur of tears and heartbreak so  i dont remember much about it) anyway this is for a lady that I always thought of as my other Nan as she was a mad irish lady too, she was my cousins best friends mum and I saw her alot and have known her since i was a baby. she passed away last friday at the age of 71 after fighting cancer bravely for over 10 years, she will be greatly missed but I am just greaful she is not in pain anymore cos the last few years she really suffered I am going to support the family who are the loveliest people you will ever meet,it will be very sad, and I am going to try to support them as much as I can, I will also get to meet the irish part of her family that still live in ireland that she told me so much about, I just hope I can get through it without being a complete mess

Oh ((((((((Marz))))))))

 

[Miaisland]

My aunt, my father's sister, died yesterday, aged 99.  I don't feel a great sorrow because she had deteriorated very much in the last couple of years and did not have much of a life (she was fantastic still in her early 90s), but there is sadness in that she was the last of my parents' siblings. We were all so fond of her - a lively, strong-minded lady who was full of fun. My father's brother died in the 2nd WW, his other sister earlier this year, aged 96, and he himself died in 1967, so their lifespans have been so very different.  I like to think of them all together again.

(((((((Sara)))))))

My thoughts are with you.

 

[Miaisland]

I'm finding I've forgotten the exact dates of my parents' deaths, I just remember the months and the years, but I do remember their birthdays. I think of Mum and Dad very, very often as I think about my own life and their lives and when I read novels that focus on family relationships as I have been doing recently, though I haven't chosen them specifically because of that theme. So, Linda and Tony, I sahre your feelings.

Oh I now what you mean....

It's the same for me.

Am right now going through the week when my father died, I think it's five years now. But I dont' remember the exact day anymore. It affects me very much and maybe it always will this time of the year.