The Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick" Diet

[Lola]

You sound plenty strong enough to me Bobby, you have probably just hit a bit of a plateau.  Plus you have alot going on in your life.  Just try and stay focused and keep up the exercise, drink the water, it will all help.

I felt weak today and almost snapped and ate a bagel, but I pulled myself together! lol

[Boris]

Hi Bobby! Don't lose your courage, been there before and am there right now. You lost quite impressive amount of weight in short time but it tends to get slower after a while.

What I have learned is that during the process the plateaus happen when your body adjusts its metabolism to the changed diet and calorie intake. They are part of the process and can take a couple of weeks. For me it usually takes about three before weight starts to go down again, slower pace than before but down nevertheless.

Like Lola said, keep focused on how you feel, keep exercising and in case of occasional lapse, do not be too hard on yourself but stay committed to yourself and your health.

You're precious, man.

[Bobby19in1963]

Lola - Boris:

Thanx! for your support.  Twice in two minutes as I walked through the hospital people asked me if everything was okay with me.  I said, "Do I look that bad."  They said, "Like you lost your best friend."  Hmmm....I didn't know I was projecting so many of my feelings.  Also, I'm low on fuel.  Got busy and missed uploading some protein and carbs mid-morning, and my body is much better tuned to what's going on now, so it missed it I think.

I'll think some more about the plateau phase.  I'm always in such a hurry, that plateauing is not good on my mental outlook.  And yer right, I DO have a lot going on these days.

A PFLAG friend went to a meeting (I've never been) and picked up some books and pamphlets he's going to try to get to me this week.  This city is so broad that it is nearly 100 miles roundtrip to his house.  But we meet in the middle and it turns out okay.  He's the one I had a two-hour lunch with a week or so ago and we talked about all kinds of things.  When I was just on the phone with him was the first time I had laughed all day...and it felt good.

Oh, I think another reason people look at me funny is that the weight loss is showing in my face, so I look different.  Those chubby cheeks are gone for the most part.

Lunchtime!

Bobby

[Lola]

Yea they are probably looking at you thinking "who is the stud muffin"   

No one likes plateau's, but WW talks about them alot, they are very common.  It is also common to hit periods where you are just "not into it"  that is fine too.  You just dust yourself off and get back on track.   


Fast or slow, I like the direction you're going.

[A****]

Bobby-  Back in 1971 I lost 55 lbs in 5 months (hope I haven't posted this before).  It was at 15 lbs for 3 months and then 5 for 2 months.  That brought me down to a weight below what my doctor was suggesting, but he was wrong as the weight I reached felt perfect (if only I was there now!).  Personally I feel it is good to slow down after that much change and allow your body and mind to re-adjust to the very changed you.  It seems to me a common mistake in this business of weight loss is to think you've reached the end when you get the weight off, but really it is just the beginning.  Along the way you may need to change some things that are working well for you now (diet, exercise, communication, etc.) and spend some effort to find new things that work better.  You are doing great and I really appreciate hearing about it as it keeps me focused on balancing things in my life.  I'm at a point where the additional activities of summer mean that I am building muscle and losing fat but there is no net weight loss so it is harder to have some neat number to look at and say I've gotten to some particular point.  I just know that when I finish a hard day with a lot of tasks and I am still up and alert at 11:30pm writing this email that I am doing better than I was mid-winter.

[Bobby19in1963]

A*****

I really appreciate hearing about it as it keeps me focused on balancing things in my life. 

It's good to hear that what we're doing here helps.  I was PMing Lola and thinking that not many were getting much from this, but she said, 'They'll come.'

a weight below what my doctor was suggesting

Isn't it interesting that most people, even doctors, think they know what your best weight should be?  I'm kinda of focused on 165 because that is what I weighed when I was 30 and stopped smoking to join the church.  (That's one complete blessing the church provided me...otherwise I don't know where I'd be.)  I may give in at 175 or 180, but I don't want those numbers as my goal...so I listen politely and will do my own thing.  The last time I lost 100 lbs. was from 252 to 149.  The 149 was a little low.  My waste size was about 29.  I'll never do that again, but I was a little sick in the head that time, out of work on disability, and exercising anorexically, if that's a word.  Did about 300 calories a day and if I didn't lose a half a pound a day I exercised twice as hard.  I was doing 65 round trip laps (just learned at swiming clinic last week that a lap is from one side to the other side of the pool, so I was doing 120 laps a day...that's a lot.)  Also did 250 plus sit ups, walked miles and miles, road a stationary bike...outacontrol!

Didn't mean to get off on the past ... I'm doing it much better this time ... good diet ... good plan.

when you get the weight off, but really it is just the beginning

Takes awhile to learn and internalize this one.  Thanx! for the reminder.

I just know that when I finish a hard day with a lot of tasks and I am still up and alert at 11:30pm writing this email that I am doing better than I was mid-winter.

Isn't it exciting to notice those kinds of changes.  I've been sleep deprived for several months, but because of my exercise I haven't crashed.  Sleep deprivation is my worst enemy these days.

Well...it's another day.  Down a little in weight since yesterday.  I'm one of those crazies that weighs each morning.  But, that's my method and it is working, so can't knock it.

Have a grrrr8! day!

Bobby

[ruth]

Hi all! Just getting caught up on this thread and wanted to put in yet another word of recommendation for the Leslie Sansone tapes. My mom turned me on to them and they are a pretty good workout, I definitely get a sweat going with them. Walking just seems like such an underrated exercise; I can remember the times I have felt the best in my life were the times when I was without a car and forced into walking everywhere, for groceries, to work, etc.  It provided wonderful quiet time for thinking and calming myself down as well (although with Leslie's tapes that's certainly not part of the equation!).


Bobby, well done and I look forward to reading about your future successes as well. Hang in there!

[Lola]

  The last time I lost 100 lbs. was from 252 to 149.  The 149 was a little low.  My waste size was about 29.  I'll never do that again, but I was a little sick in the head that time, out of work on disability, and exercising anorexically, if that's a word.  Did about 300 calories a day and if I didn't lose a half a pound a day I exercised twice as hard.  I was doing 65 round trip laps (just learned at swiming clinic last week that a lap is from one side to the other side of the pool, so I was doing 120 laps a day...that's a lot.)  Also did 250 plus sit ups, walked miles and miles, road a stationary bike...outacontrol!

Didn't mean to get off on the past ... I'm doing it much better this time ... good diet ... good plan.

Yes Bobby don't ever slip back into those habits, that sounds so scary to me.  Being like that is just as dangerous as being overweight.  I like what you are doing now, you are doing a good job.

I don't get too hung up on numbers, I know I won't weigh in my 40's what I weighed in my teens, I just won't.  I was 92 pounds when I got married, that is not going to happen.........and that is fine.

I want to be as healthy as I can and in shape, I don't really worry what the scale says, not in the long run.


Thanks for the info Ruth, I am going to look for that next time I am in Walmart!

[A****]

Well I am surprised not to see some new posts here as it has been a few DAYS!  I would think this topic is relevant to a whole lot of folks that are impacted by BBM and are changing their lives.  But then again, what do I know!  For me it was one of those weeks where I allowed myself the usual deceptions so ended up buying some foods that I know are just too hard for me keep under control.  Hopefully this next week will see a return to a bit better outcome!  Hope you are all doing well.

[Bobby19in1963]

Ah...we live and learn...again.

One reason I believe in weighing every day...for me...is that I need constant course corrections.  In a week I can be WAY off!  I'm obsessive compulsive and can go either way...totally on or totally off...hardly any middle ground.

This weekend and in fact that whole last week was kind of a bummer for me.  I'm approaching a 20% loss, and believe that when you get pretty close to that, whatever has been working up until now needs tweaked a little.  I'm stuck at just a little over 50 lbs. loss.  In fact, come to think of it, that's about where I started this thread!

What I've learned is that I'm eating more and exercising a little bit less.  I call it scamming the diet...you get so you know what you're doing well enough that you can eat just enough to almost lose...or to lose about a pound.  That's a recipe for disaster!

So, this morning I was up early and added an extra 30" of bike riding to my morning.  As I reviewed, I had cut that little portion out.  It was giving me about 250 calories of burn each day that helped.  Now it's baaack!

I've cut down a little on portions and will be watching like a hawk again.  Of course, going out to dinner and having ice cream for dessert was fun Friday, but I don't think I should be treating myself just yet.  Too far from goal.

The swimming is going well.  I was able to do 10 lengths of the pool this Saturday...that's up from 1/2 length when I started a couple of weeks ago.  It's all about breath and being sensible.

BUT...the most marvelous thing happened...I CAN'T FLOAT!  I sink now!  You know how fat floats and lean muscle tissue doesn't?  I proved something is going on.  Used to be (sound familiar?) I could just put my arms behind my head and float for as long as I wanted.  Now, when I try it, my legs start to sink and pretty soon it's just my nose above water!  That's exciting!

It's all working...I'm just impatient!

Hope y'all are having a wonderful day!

Bobby

[Boris]

Nice to hear from you, Bobby.

I have a body type that gains weight fast and loses it really slowly. Any attempts to reduce weight are painfully slow and I get frustrated very easily. For me weighing only once a week, in morning, before breakfast was good.

What is obvious to me is that your exercise is also giving results, you are in much better shape that in the beginning. The prize will come eventually and remember we are all rooting for you.

Hugs

[Lola]

Well I had a 4 day weekend, can't say I was perfect, but it could have been a heck of alot worse.  And I had a wonderful time with friends and family! 

Tomorrow starts a new week, back on track, with LOTS of exercise! 

[Lola]

HEY where are you Bobby? 

[A****]

Hey, Lola, where do you suppose that guy is?  Just when where dying to know how things are going he takes a vacation or something......  If I had a scale that really gave consistent results I'd post them here but I've had bad luck trying to get a decent scale at a price I can afford, maybe soon....  Hope everyone has a nice holiday weekend....

[CellarDweller115]

found a new workout video today.......also by Leslie Sansone....."The 1 Mile Jog".

Man, what a work out....very cool!