Caring for others with chronic illnesses

[Sason]

So sorry to hear about your mum, Kathryn.

I wish for the best possible outcome.

[MaineGirl]

I, too, have experience in what you are feeling and going through Kathryn.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. 

[kathy]

As some of you know, my mum has had a blood clot in her leg for a few months now, and has been having weekly blood tests and scans. She even spent a night in hospital with pneumonia She had a scan last week and she and my dad got the results yesterday - she's got lung cancer It was absolutely awful when I found out and I was hoping to talk to somebody on here...

Hello kk:

I wasn't aware of your mother's condition; I'm so sorry to hear of this.  I really don't know what to say except I'm thinking of you all and wishing you all the best luck.

Is she a longtime smoker?   My daddy did not have lung cancer but chronic emphysema and COPD, due, unfortunately to longtime smoking.  He passed away in Feb. 2007; I was in terrible denial.  Nothing has ever been the same.

I just hope this situation for your mother, your dad and yourself will come to a happy outcome and the illness has been caught quickly.

Kathy    

[brokebacktom]

I guess this is the proper thread to report my mother's outcome. She, for those who are not up to events, is suffering from terminal cancer. It's spreading and the Doctor saids it's not a good idea for Chemo. She also has a brain tumor besides. Today I was with her when a headache occurred it was not pretty. She started to cry and holding her head. Her sister, my aunt, was there at the time too. She took her medicine and within minutes she was fine. She is done with her radiation to shrink it, but will not know if it did anything until next week sometime. She can't sleep, for she coughs all night long. She takes 10 to 15 minutes naps thru out the day only. I had a great time with her this weekend. I go back to Minneapolis to look for a job on Sunday. My step-father and mother are constantly fighting right now. I think they don't know what to do for one other. Her sister live 4 hours away and will stop by once every other week to help. Another sister lives in the same town as the the other sister, so she'll come down the other weeks. So, in a sense they will be alternating weeks. It will be a tough road ahead. They give her 3 to 6 months. 

[Cally]

Still thinking of you and your family, (((Tom)))

[Sason]

(((((Tom)))))

Yes, a tough road for you all.

Do you have anyone around to draw support from?

[brokebacktom]

^^^^

Some friends, no Family members in town. Can Call them if needed.

[Sason]

Glad you have someone at this trying time.

And of course, you can always come here. We're all thinking of you.   

[suelyblu]

(((((Tom)))) .... saying prayers for you and your family.

[janjo]

Hope you are doing OK, Tom.

This must be such a terrible time for you.

[brokebacktom]

^^^

I'm doing ok. But being laid off sucks. It keeps me thinking about my mother even more. Had 2 interviews yesterday, one today and one on Friday. But nothing I really want. But will take the one on Friday if offered. All around my life sucks right now.

[janjo]

It is so unfortunate that everything has come at once, doesn't it always.
It is probably better to take a job, any job, than having too much time to think, at present, and work does tend to make work, in that you make new connections who might let you know if something better comes along.

Wishing you strength in adversity.

[suelyblu]

You deserve some luck Tom so fingers crossed for a new job. Still saying a prayer for your mom. ((((Tom)))

[Cally]

And the same thoughts from me, Tom .

[brokebacktom]

My mom shaved her head on Monday. We went shopping for a hat, found one too. She started her walking again. She is doing 1/2 a mile a day. Her goal is by next week 1 mile a day. She uses a walker with wheels for support. The only problem is that she is loosing weight and muscle mass. I told her to buy some 5lbs wights to exercise with.

later, Tom